I would say keep quiet till you have to, otherwise you are defined by the RA, which can't be right.

hi Rich,

firstly am so pleased to hear Humira is working for you? been a long time coming.

as for telling someone, i agree i would hold back. to be honest i am an open book, and i normally tell people i meet socially early doors about my RA and Osteo, mainly because i am generally in my wheelchair ( if out for distance ) or limping heavily with walking stick, but i feel i am defined as Paul says by what i've got NOT who i am.

but in your circumstances to me you need to get to know each other for who you are, you are not asking for care or help in being looked after are you, you are just wanting to meet and hopefully progress with someone .. so just be you, and let your personality come through not this flaming RA.

and of course we all want to know how things go .. lol

good luck,

Suzanne x

Hold back Rich, let them get to know you the real person first not the person who has RA.

I would go with Paul's advice.

Gogs

any news to tell yet Rich,

interesting post from Paul i see,

Suzanne x

Rich hi, just caught up, I meet with friends on Monday mornings for coffee in a pub/restaurant in town and thinking of your words, I had been chatty with a lovely chap for weeks but had a bad day or 2 went one morning wearing splints as per and stick which I tend to take off and put into my bag before friends arrived they all know of my ra so don't bother but its nice to be free for just for a hour but one time I was in so much discomfort I left all in place any way the chap came over took one look and commented to my pal that if he had known I was a cripple he would never have got so friendly as he is no nursemaid and proceeded to walk away, nice, so I would bring up the subject in conversation to test a reaction first,i no longer take off my splints,i am who I am,, post how you are getting on, dorothy

What an @rse!

Definitely agree it was a near miss. As I have used dating websites I've developed a thick skin and idiot radar. Got some great stories though.

Angie

near miss there Dorothy,

shoot the b***** i say

the word "cripple" should be banned, pity we couldn't descend on the restaurant flipping cheek of the man.

Suzanne x

thanks for being on my wave length guys,i was a bit miffed but heh ho! maybe I couldn't see the wood for the trees as they say, was nice to have male attention,i shall stay loyal to the dog at least he helps me in his funny way and I have friends who care and are always there too, I thought kids could be cruel,dorothy

Dorothy that's awful! You were very lucky to be saved form any more of this "gentleman's" attention! Don't be put off though - there are more nice people out there who will see beyond your stick to the lovely person holding it xx Ailsa